We have the opportunity many times a day, everyday, to be the one who listens to others, curious rather than certain. And the greatest benefit that comes to those who listen is that we develop closer relationships with those we thought we couldn’t understand. When we listen with less judgment, we always develop better relationships with each other. It’s not differences that divide us. It’s our judgments that do.
– Margaret J. Wheatley
I find it easy to be curious about adventure, about places and cultures and food that are different than mine. I’m curious in a global sense; meta-curiosity.
However, if I’m talking to you face to face, I’m a steamroller, a bully. I’ll finish your sentences, guess at your thoughts, and make sure you agree with my world view. My assumption, whether I like it or not, is that you think like me.
In a culture where we value the “original” and the “individual,” we all wander around with lofty thoughts about being and doing something the world has never seen when suddenly we find ourselves in a herd of original-individualists who just so happen to act and think the way that we do. Ok, maybe not all of us, but I think, if we’re honest, that many of us find ourselves in this category of un-originality.
I’m adventurous, curious, daring, risky even, but this character trait falls short when I approach the interpersonal. So here’s the crux of the two ideas: Instead of seeking strong, independent self-actualization, let’s push into the unknown, the stranger, the foreigner, the alien. Let’s listen with generous hearts and open minds. Let’s stay curious, not only to the grand world outside our door, but to the grand diversity outside of our heads.
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